Comments on: Why I Avoid Negative People Like The Plague http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/ An Appetite For Life Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:33:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: Anon http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-73134 Anon Mon, 10 Nov 2008 23:37:45 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-73134 Hey I can totally relate to Mary, i too had become very negative due to many traumatic experiences starting from when i was a kid, id always think of the bad or the worst that could happen in a situation. Hey

I can totally relate to Mary, i too had become very negative due to many traumatic experiences starting from when i was a kid, id always think of the bad or the worst that could happen in a situation.

]]> By: Dan Hinkley http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-71719 Dan Hinkley Wed, 01 Oct 2008 06:43:27 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-71719 Perhaps you are confusing mean people with negative people. Let's face it, pick up a history book, human history has been filled with war, famine, disease and death, as well as joy, love, success, honor and happiness. Still, given the brutality of nature (try living in nature for one month in the winter), it only stand to reason that one has to be a realist to survive. What you are talking about is an unhealthy focus on what is not real. It is reality that if you go to war you may die. It is not reality that driving around without your seatbelt a few times a month is likely to kill you. Perhaps people who are negative are merely unlucky, and people who are positive, are positive because they are lucky, and it is has nothing to do with thought patterns, rather, the bad energy that surrounds certain people creates their negative personality. I've gone through horrible trauma, and it started while I was still a very positive person. Things just always worked out for me. Then one day it all just stopped and nothing seemed to work out. We are, right now, on the edge of a financial collapse. Shall all the positive thinkers just ignore it and not protect themselves? Many times people who are "positive" are just extremely advantaged either through genetics or affirmative action, and just don't see it, and don't understand fully what it is like to live on the other side of the tracks. One thing I won't do is give up. I constantly study and I will fight for what I want. Go read German history, 1918-1945, it might sober you "positive thinkers" or shall I say "naives" up a bit. Perhaps you are confusing mean people with negative people.

Let’s face it, pick up a history book, human history has been filled with war, famine, disease and death, as well as joy, love, success, honor and happiness. Still, given the brutality of nature (try living in nature for one month in the winter), it only stand to reason that one has to be a realist to survive.

What you are talking about is an unhealthy focus on what is not real. It is reality that if you go to war you may die. It is not reality that driving around without your seatbelt a few times a month is likely to kill you.

Perhaps people who are negative are merely unlucky, and people who are positive, are positive because they are lucky, and it is has nothing to do with thought patterns, rather, the bad energy that surrounds certain people creates their negative personality.

I’ve gone through horrible trauma, and it started while I was still a very positive person. Things just always worked out for me. Then one day it all just stopped and nothing seemed to work out.

We are, right now, on the edge of a financial collapse. Shall all the positive thinkers just ignore it and not protect themselves?

Many times people who are “positive” are just extremely advantaged either through genetics or affirmative action, and just don’t see it, and don’t understand fully what it is like to live on the other side of the tracks.

One thing I won’t do is give up. I constantly study and I will fight for what I want.

Go read German history, 1918-1945, it might sober you “positive thinkers” or shall I say “naives” up a bit.

]]> By: mary http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-56037 mary Fri, 06 Jun 2008 06:48:55 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-56037 Hey, I like your article. The only thing is that I used to be and am still in the process of not becoming one of those people. I don't want to feel sorry for myself, but I went through some incredibly traumatic life events and truly didn't notice my negative thought patterns setting in as I failed to cope with the events around me. I've done so well my whole life taking these issues and turning them in to a chance for me to grow and have the opportunity to be a strong resilient person, but I don't know when I gave up. I guess I felt like I needed a break and took the easy way out. I don't excuse any of this. I just think that it is important to remember that these people aren't necessarily out to get you and bring you down. They are clueless and aren't even aware of their toxic and somber mood. Everyone thinks that their thought patterns are reality and positivity is a direction that everyone should want to head. What kills me though is that as I became such a negative person, it happened slowly and I was completely unaware! Honestly. I've always wanted to make a positive impact on my surroundings, still kept up volunteer work and things like that, but I didn't realize how bad my sarcasm had gotten and how unpleasant I was to people around me. I thought I was joking and my sarcasm was a reflection of my own self-loathing. Truly didn't know. No one seemed to really want to hang out with me and I didn't know why. I just think it is important to consider telling people that they are not pleasant to be around before refering to them as leeches or as someone who is out to get you. I never intended to do that to anyone and felt as though my reality was everyone elses at the time. It took me so long to finally realize why people didn't like me and I have to thank a couple of people I worked with who were blunt and told me flat out... you're so negative and you're unpleasant to be around. While it hurts to hear, it is one of the best things someone has done for me, because they made it very clear as to why they didn't like me and look! it turned out positive. That's all it took for me to want to change! It sounds kind of silly, but maybe have something positive to say about these negative people. Every human being has the potential to change. Don't encourage it in any way. Call them out on it, but their thought patterns don't necessarily imply that they are bad people and out to harm you. Telling them that they are negative may make them upset at first (negative thoughts can lead someone to be highly sensitive or vice versa), but I think that it is such a good thing to do for the person and helps you in a sense impact the world in a positive way! Maybe don't completely shun them as horrible people, but tell them they are negative and you don't like it and maybe they will realize and change like me. Hey, I like your article. The only thing is that I used to be and am still in the process of not becoming one of those people. I don’t want to feel sorry for myself, but I went through some incredibly traumatic life events and truly didn’t notice my negative thought patterns setting in as I failed to cope with the events around me. I’ve done so well my whole life taking these issues and turning them in to a chance for me to grow and have the opportunity to be a strong resilient person, but I don’t know when I gave up. I guess I felt like I needed a break and took the easy way out. I don’t excuse any of this. I just think that it is important to remember that these people aren’t necessarily out to get you and bring you down. They are clueless and aren’t even aware of their toxic and somber mood. Everyone thinks that their thought patterns are reality and positivity is a direction that everyone should want to head. What kills me though is that as I became such a negative person, it happened slowly and I was completely unaware! Honestly. I’ve always wanted to make a positive impact on my surroundings, still kept up volunteer work and things like that, but I didn’t realize how bad my sarcasm had gotten and how unpleasant I was to people around me. I thought I was joking and my sarcasm was a reflection of my own self-loathing. Truly didn’t know. No one seemed to really want to hang out with me and I didn’t know why. I just think it is important to consider telling people that they are not pleasant to be around before refering to them as leeches or as someone who is out to get you. I never intended to do that to anyone and felt as though my reality was everyone elses at the time. It took me so long to finally realize why people didn’t like me and I have to thank a couple of people I worked with who were blunt and told me flat out… you’re so negative and you’re unpleasant to be around. While it hurts to hear, it is one of the best things someone has done for me, because they made it very clear as to why they didn’t like me and look! it turned out positive. That’s all it took for me to want to change! It sounds kind of silly, but maybe have something positive to say about these negative people. Every human being has the potential to change. Don’t encourage it in any way. Call them out on it, but their thought patterns don’t necessarily imply that they are bad people and out to harm you. Telling them that they are negative may make them upset at first (negative thoughts can lead someone to be highly sensitive or vice versa), but I think that it is such a good thing to do for the person and helps you in a sense impact the world in a positive way! Maybe don’t completely shun them as horrible people, but tell them they are negative and you don’t like it and maybe they will realize and change like me.

]]> By: Priya Florence Shah http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-34443 Priya Florence Shah Mon, 19 Nov 2007 16:24:31 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-34443 Lisa, what I suggest is that you begin to distance yourself from the friend who judges you. Or else realise that she's being judgmental because she is unable to accept her own failings and judges herself harshly. Either way, it's up to you to decide whether you want to tolerate her judgment or enlighten her on her behaviour (which I doubt will work). Lisa, what I suggest is that you begin to distance yourself from the friend who judges you. Or else realise that she’s being judgmental because she is unable to accept her own failings and judges herself harshly. Either way, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to tolerate her judgment or enlighten her on her behaviour (which I doubt will work).

]]> By: tata http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-25331 tata Sat, 28 Jul 2007 16:56:11 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-25331 nice one and point weell made, all negative bodd sucking vampires and leeches are no good to any one not even themselves the prey on the goodness of people who genuinly make an effort in life and with other people. these negative dark clouds only bring wet weather showering all that they are around so that you will always end up getting wet, cold and eventually sick. good advice avoid these people like the plague they are a disease on the earth that which is making it so much more difficult for all human kind and reaking havoc on the world. keep poisitive and dont let these gloomy people cloud your mind and life, where you want to sail happily in the sun they only want to anchor your ship at any time with out need. keep sailing! nice one and point weell made, all negative bodd sucking vampires and leeches are no good to any one not even themselves the prey on the goodness of people who genuinly make an effort in life and with other people. these negative dark clouds only bring wet weather showering all that they are around so that you will always end up getting wet, cold and eventually sick. good advice avoid these people like the plague they are a disease on the earth that which is making it so much more difficult for all human kind and reaking havoc on the world. keep poisitive and dont let these gloomy people cloud your mind and life, where you want to sail happily in the sun they only want to anchor your ship at any time with out need. keep sailing!

]]> By: gnap http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-20951 gnap Sun, 06 May 2007 05:28:36 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-20951 Hey, great article. I stumbled upon your site when i was searching for something to read on "negative people". I recently encountered some negative people that left a bad taste in my mouth, and what I read here, made me feel a whole lot better - seeing them for what they really are and keeping a clear conscience for myself and not be affected by them. You're right. Avoid them like the plaque. (If i can't avoid them, I'll just IGNORE them. :) ) Thanks.. :) Hey, great article. I stumbled upon your site when i was searching for something to read on “negative people”.

I recently encountered some negative people that left a bad taste in my mouth, and what I read here, made me feel a whole lot better - seeing them for what they really are and keeping a clear conscience for myself and not be affected by them.

You’re right. Avoid them like the plaque. (If i can’t avoid them, I’ll just IGNORE them. :) )

Thanks.. :)

]]> By: Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » The Law Of Attraction Is No Secret http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-14005 Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » The Law Of Attraction Is No Secret Sun, 04 Mar 2007 13:04:34 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-14005 [...] Lack of belief: Negative beliefs, defeatist attitudes, pessimism and expecting the worst only attracts more negativity into your life [...] […] Lack of belief: Negative beliefs, defeatist attitudes, pessimism and expecting the worst only attracts more negativity into your life […]

]]> By: Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » The Healing Codes: Can Your Beliefs Make You Sick? http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-10899 Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » The Healing Codes: Can Your Beliefs Make You Sick? Mon, 29 Jan 2007 01:00:58 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-10899 [...] We know that thoughts are vibrations or energy and that negative thought patterns create a negative outcome, while positive thought patterns create a positive outcome. As the article here states: Everything in the universe has a unique vibrational energy. Every object, every being, every thought, every action. Your physical body in its healthy state has a specific rate of vibration. When you are sick your vibrational rate changes and you are no longer in balance with your true nature. [...] […] We know that thoughts are vibrations or energy and that negative thought patterns create a negative outcome, while positive thought patterns create a positive outcome. As the article here states: Everything in the universe has a unique vibrational energy. Every object, every being, every thought, every action. Your physical body in its healthy state has a specific rate of vibration. When you are sick your vibrational rate changes and you are no longer in balance with your true nature. […]

]]> By: Lisa Horn http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-3508 Lisa Horn Mon, 06 Nov 2006 13:27:38 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-3508 I have a friend that always puts me down or Judge's me as being something I'm not. I am so good to her, I help her out all the time. People ask me all the time why do I put up with her. I don't know. What should I do? I have a friend that always puts me down or Judge’s me as being something I’m not. I am so good to her, I help her out all the time. People ask me all the time why do I put up with her. I don’t know. What should I do?

]]> By: Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Natural Born Empath: Deanna Troi In The Flesh http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-596 Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Natural Born Empath: Deanna Troi In The Flesh Wed, 05 Jul 2006 09:12:03 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/04/25/why-i-avoid-negative-people-like-the-plague/#comment-596 [...] I guess being an empath is what accounts for my acute sensitivity to negative thoughts, negative people, bad news, and even depression. But at least I know I’m not alone in feeling this way. As the article here notes: Empaths are sensitive to TV, videos, movies, news and broadcasts. Violence or emotional dramas depicting shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted on adults, children or animals can bring an empath easily to tears. At times, they may feel physically ill or choke back the tears. Some empaths will struggle to comprehend any such cruelty, and will have grave difficulty in expressing themselves in the face of another’s ignorance, closed-mindedness and obvious lack of compassion. They simply cannot justify the suffering they feel and see. [...] […] I guess being an empath is what accounts for my acute sensitivity to negative thoughts, negative people, bad news, and even depression. But at least I know I’m not alone in feeling this way. As the article here notes: Empaths are sensitive to TV, videos, movies, news and broadcasts. Violence or emotional dramas depicting shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted on adults, children or animals can bring an empath easily to tears. At times, they may feel physically ill or choke back the tears. Some empaths will struggle to comprehend any such cruelty, and will have grave difficulty in expressing themselves in the face of another’s ignorance, closed-mindedness and obvious lack of compassion. They simply cannot justify the suffering they feel and see. […]

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