Comments on: Compassion And The Victim Mindset http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/05/02/compassion-and-the-victim-mindset/ An Appetite For Life Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:22:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: Julie http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/05/02/compassion-and-the-victim-mindset/#comment-96174 Julie Sun, 05 Jul 2009 11:32:42 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/05/02/compassion-and-the-victim-mindset/#comment-96174 I disagree with this article and the one before it. Ever had a bad day? Week? Month? Try a hard life on for size! For someone who claims to have "compassion in abundance", you seem to be lacking in the lesson it has to teach. Most importantly, a person who is close to you, who is suffering, whether of their own accord or by life's design, needs your time, your ear, your presence! How lame is it that you would pull yourself away from someone right when they need you most?! Speaking of "judging others".... How crude and abusive is labelling people as "parasites"! I'd challenge you to take a hard long look in the mirror! You, by no means, are perfect or even totally positive thinking! Do I agree that having a positive attitude is vital? Yes, but, not so that you can be liked or avoid being ditched by your friends when you need them most. Who cares if stuck up people like you?! Genuine people, with kind,compassionate hearts will! Just an aside... if your friend got raped and couldn't get past her feelings of fear negativity and self-loathing, would you dump her? According to your articles, you would because, you'd be saving yourself! In your drowning scenario, the person who would risk it all to save the person drowning despite the risk to their own life is called, aptly enough, a HERO! Case in point, Sept. 11, 2001 - New York City! The fact that you are willing to basically shut out another human being who needs you is the most selfish thing I've heard in a long time. Who will you be hanging out with then? Basically, your ideal friends will be a bunch of people like you who won't hang around when you need them most, when life gets really rough! Just as an aside, Negativity/Mood Swings (Yes, Grumpiness)/Self-Loathing are all normal signs to see when a person is going through Depression and/or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Any counselor can tell you that what these people need most are support and encouragement that life will get better. Don't forget a whole lot of compassion and patience! I challenge you to test your ideals and beliefs in the name of personal growth! I disagree with this article and the one before it.

Ever had a bad day? Week? Month? Try a hard life on for size!

For someone who claims to have “compassion in abundance”, you seem to be lacking in the lesson it has to teach. Most importantly, a person who is close to you, who is suffering, whether of their own accord or by life’s design, needs your time, your ear, your presence! How lame is it that you would pull yourself away from someone right when they need you most?!

Speaking of “judging others”…. How crude and abusive is labelling people as “parasites”!

I’d challenge you to take a hard long look in the mirror! You, by no means, are perfect or even totally positive thinking!

Do I agree that having a positive attitude is vital? Yes, but, not so that you can be liked or avoid being ditched by your friends when you need them most. Who cares if stuck up people like you?! Genuine people, with kind,compassionate hearts will!

Just an aside… if your friend got raped and couldn’t get past her feelings of fear negativity and self-loathing, would you dump her? According to your articles, you would because, you’d be saving yourself!

In your drowning scenario, the person who would risk it all to save the person drowning despite the risk to their own life is called, aptly enough, a HERO! Case in point, Sept. 11, 2001 - New York City!

The fact that you are willing to basically shut out another human being who needs you is the most selfish thing I’ve heard in a long time. Who will you be hanging out with then? Basically, your ideal friends will be a bunch of people like you who won’t hang around when you need them most, when life gets really rough!

Just as an aside, Negativity/Mood Swings (Yes, Grumpiness)/Self-Loathing are all normal signs to see when a person is going through Depression and/or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Any counselor can tell you that what these people need most are support and encouragement that life will get better. Don’t forget a whole lot of compassion and patience!

I challenge you to test your ideals and beliefs in the name of personal growth!

]]> By: Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Natural Born Empath: Deanna Troi In The Flesh http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/05/02/compassion-and-the-victim-mindset/#comment-598 Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Natural Born Empath: Deanna Troi In The Flesh Wed, 05 Jul 2006 09:12:37 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/05/02/compassion-and-the-victim-mindset/#comment-598 [...] But empathy also gives me the ability to connect to people, the compassion to see things from their point of view, and ability to build rapport almost instantly, traits that have served me well in my personal and professional life. [...] […] But empathy also gives me the ability to connect to people, the compassion to see things from their point of view, and ability to build rapport almost instantly, traits that have served me well in my personal and professional life. […]

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My mother is sight impaired ans going blind, she doesn’t accept the situation and I have been trying to help for years. Consciously I moved far away from my family at a young age to avoid all the troubles, maniaco depressive sister and parents arguing, and satyed abroad but I am sad and feeling guilty. Guilt is not easy to deal with when you are far away from the people you love and they tell you that they need you. Even if when you are there they still dwelve into self pity.

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