How To Transform Your Relationship With Yourself
May 17th, 2006, 2:44 pm by Priya Florence Shah
Filed under Self Help, My Life, Stress-Relief, Happiness, Meditation, Self-Awareness, Personal Growth, Articles, Spirituality, Relationships, Self-Improvement, Attitude, Experiences, Thoughts
Why do we feel unhappy or unfulfilled? Why do we complain, judge others or blame them for our problems? Usually, it’s because we feel that way about our self.
Our relationships and life experiences are a reflection of our inner world. How we see the world and interpret the actions of others depends on our relationship with our self.
To change your relationships with others, you’ve got to change your relationship with yourself.
Own your feelings
Accept that you alone are responsible for the way you think and feel. No one can make you feel that way. Own responsibility for allowing yourself to feel the way you do.
Be self-aware
Step back and observe yourself from a distance. How do you react to people and situations? Are you reacting unconsciously from the wounded child or responding in a calm, compassionate manner? When you’re conscious and aware of your feelings in a situation, you have the power to respond, rather than react.
Be authentic
Be true to yourself. There’s no need to put on a mask or a persona for someone else. You are perfect, whole and complete the way you are.
Love yourself unconditionally
Accept yourself for who you are, the parts you like, the parts you don’t. You’re part of divine creation. When you know and believe that, you will love and accept yourself the way you are.
Never belittle yourself
Never put yourself down or disrespect yourself. Don’t allow anyone else to treat you in a way that you don’t approve of. Never accept less than what you deserve - from yourself or anyone else.
Take care of yourself first
Remember the airline stewardess telling you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping the person next to you? You can’t take care of someone else, your family, or your kids, if you don’t take care of yourself first. Make yourself and your health a priority and do what it takes to get well, in every way.
Get in touch with your Higher Self
Your intuition is your Higher Self, the self that knows without knowing, sees without seeing. It is this self that will guide you towards your higher purpose. Any time you spend in meditation, prayer or solitude, cultivating your relationship with your higher self, will be time well spent.
Learn to connect with yourself at a deeper level, find your purpose, and understand your role in the universe. It will transform your relationship with yourself, and with everyone in your life.
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Carmalee said,
May 18th, 2006, 11:52 am
I am so glad, I found this site. I am one of those pessimist you talk about. I am the person who feels everyone is out to get her. I can totally justify those feels.
I don’t like to feel like this! I truly don’t it hurt so badly to feel like this, and it hurts my family around me.
I try to be happy and then I get in a slump. I just recently started taking an antidepressant which has aided me in self communication control. I think more about what I am going to say. I am one who will point out the wrong done to me. Now I feel the wrong only within.
I want to be rid of these feelings.
My childhood, teen years and early twenties, life was a challenge!! I still carry baggage and I am slowly letting it go, but it will always hurt.
I am truly blessed, I have all a women needs and then some. A beautiful family husband, two daughters a beautiful home, and a great job.
I need to be happy, I want to be happy, I want to make my family happy!!
Can thoughts. This is really hard for me. It took me several months before I would go to the doctor and tell him my thoughts, then when I got the anti depressant I had to talk myself into taking it. Its not strong, very low dose, but I don’t even take tylenol…
If you hav e any thoughts that would be appreciated.
I am a full time employee, I go to school online when my children go to sleep. I have no time to go to a counselor and talk it out. I just need a way to help myself!!!
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Priya Florence Shah said,
May 18th, 2006, 5:52 pm
Dear Carmalee,
My heart goes out to you, my dear. I can feel your pain. I know exactly what it feels like to be in your state.
The reason you feel this way is because of your BELIEFS. For a large part of my life, I was a prisoner of my beliefs. I thought that was how I SHOULD feel. I thought I didn’t deserve to be happy.
But when I worked on myself and changed those beliefs - which is not as easy as it sounds - I realised that I had a CHOICE.
I realised that I could feel any way I CHOSE to feel, and interpret my life the way I CHOSE to interpret it.
Understanding that simple fact will change your life.
Here are some of the tools that helped me make those changes:
1. I read “Unlimited Power” by Anthony Robbins, and did the exercises and applied the techniques to my daily life.
2. I read Richard Carlson’s book “Shortcut Through Therapy.” It changed my life.
3. I meditate two to three times a day and I recommend that you take a course in meditation or buy the home study course by Jose Silva. It will help you get centered and find peace within.
Good luck, my dear. I know you will find happiness, Carmalee, because YOU DESERVE IT!
irfan subhan said,
September 20th, 2007, 4:29 pm
i cant say about my filling
irfan subhan said,
September 20th, 2007, 4:30 pm
I meditate two to three times a day and I recommend that you take a course in meditation or buy the home study course by Jose Silva. It will help you get centered and find peace within.
priyanshu said,
December 26th, 2008, 2:58 pm
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