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If you’re a sci-fi junkie like me, you’re probably familiar with Star Trek and the Holodeck (or Holographic Environment Simulator) concept.

The Holodeck is a technology that can recreate any chosen environment within the confines of the Starship Enterprise. Designed as a place where the crew can relax and unwind during a long voyage, the holodeck took virtual reality to a new level, creating scenarios that appear so real, they are difficult to distinguish from reality.

In the Holodeck you can actually create your own reality - one that is programmed to meet your desires.

You can live the life of your dreams, play a super hero, find the perfect mate and live in a virtual world of your own creation.

Wow! If I had access to something like that, I’d create an army of minions to do my bidding. Or date the gorgeous Jean Luc Picard.

Now you’re probably wondering what this has to do with manifestation. Well, the truth is we all manifest our own reality, whether we like to admit it or not.

Whether our lives are great or lousy, they’re the product of our own creation. The thoughts we think create the life we live.

To create the life of your dreams you must overcome your limitations and learn how to manifest your desires by FOCUSING on what you want.

Now, what if I told you that you could use the concept of Holographic Creation to easily manifest your desires, even if you lack the ability to clearly visualize what you want.

That you could have your own version of Star Trek’s Holodeck to simulate a reality of your own creation. And that you don’t even need to be beamed up to the Starship Enterprise to do that.

You’d probably think I’d completely lost it, right? Well, I need you to keep an open mind about this, because Christopher Westra has released some information that claims to help you do exactly that.

Through his counseling and consulting work, Christopher has helped hundreds of people clarify what they really want. He’s developed techniques that will help you identify what you really want, and create it using a process he calls “HoloCreation.”

It’s very similar to what Maxwell Maltz, father of Psycho-Cybernetics, calls the “Theatre of the Mind.”

Christopher has discovered techniques that go beyond mere visualisation and outlined his techniques in his book called “I Create Reality.” So beam yourself up and check out his beautiful video on how we create our reality.

It probably won’t get me a date with Jean Luc, but I think you’ll find the information in his book fascinating, whether you’re a Trekkie or not. I hope it helps you “Make it so!“.

Also worth checking out is Christopher’s video on creating more joy and emotional transformation in your life. Inspiring stuff! Do forward them to your friends.

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5 Choices to Create Happiness
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

All of us have met people who just seem to be happy most of the time. Perhaps you have assumed that these people are just naturally happy, or that they are the lucky people who have an easy life, or they had really loving parents. Most of the time, nothing could be farther from the truth.

Happy people are making specific choices regarding their thinking and behavior. Happy people CONSCIOUSLY choose to think and behave in ways that result in happiness. Unhappy people are UNCONSCIOUSLY thinking and behaving in ways that create unhappiness.

Following are five of the specific choices that happy people make:

OPTIMISM

Happy people see the glass as half full, while unhappy people choose to be pessimistic €œ to see the glass as half empty. Optimistic thinking does not just happen - it is a choice regarding how you see life. Optimistic people are optimistic because they CHOOSE to be optimistic.

Instead of allowing their ego wounded self to be in charge with all its doom and gloom, happy people put their loving adult self in charge and open to the wonderful possibilities that life has to offer.

Happy people realize that their thinking is the beginning of a creative process that leads to manifestation. By thinking in positive ways, they move themselves to act in ways that manifest their dreams.

KINDNESS

Happy people choose to be kind and compassionate toward themselves and others. Happy people have learned that how they treat themselves and others determines much of how they feel.

Happy people do not wait to be happy before being kind to themselves and others. They realize that their happiness is the RESULT of their caring behavior, not the CAUSE of it.

They are kind, caring and compassionate whether or not they feel like it. They have chosen this way of being, and their happiness is the result.

FORGIVENESS

Happy people do not harbor resentment toward others, even others who have been mean and hurtful toward them. They realize that resentment makes them unhappy, so they choose to allow people their humanness and forgive them their hurtful behavior.

Because happy people tend not to take personally others’ uncaring behavior, they don’t get their feelings hurt in the same way that people do who take others’ behavior personally.

Happy people recognize that another’s behavior is really about that other person, so they move into compassion toward themselves and others rather than into judgment.

ACCEPTANCE

Happy people realize what they can control and what they can’t. They live by the Serenity Prayer, accepting the things they cannot change and changing the things they can.

Unhappy people are constantly trying to change people and circumstances and do not accept their lack of control. As a result, they are constantly frustrated.

Happy people realize they cannot control others and outcomes, so they focus on what they can control €œ their own thinking and behavior. Acceptance of what they can and cannot control leads to happiness and inner peace.

GRATITUDE

Finally, happy people are consistently grateful for what they have, rather than complaining about what they don’t have. They notice the many gifts and blessings that come their way and they frequently express gratitude for the everyday things in their lives €œ the beauty of nature, the food they eat, the smile on a friend’s face, their ability to see, hear, walk, talk.

Even many disabled people who may not have the blessings of eyesight, hearing, speech or legs are often happy people because they focus on what they do have and what they can do, rather than focusing on what they are missing out on.

If you want to be happy, then you need to recognize that happiness is the result of your thinking and behavior, not the cause of it. If you choose to focus on becoming conscious of what thoughts and behavior make you feel happy, you can become a happy person €œ regardless of your present circumstances.

Happiness does not just happen €œ it takes work!

About The Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?” and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone Sessions Available.

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In my quest to find the perfect mate, I often ended up dating or attracting people who were completely wrong for me. It was only when I realised a simple truth that my entire concept of relationships changed.

Practitioners of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) have a rule that states: The meaning of your communication is the response that you get. That means the response you elicit from a person depends entirely on how you communicate your ideas to them.

If you communicate in a way that gets you the response you desired, you were successful. If not, you need to learn what was missing in your communication and how to incorporate that the next time you try.

Notice how this rule places the onus of getting a response on YOU, not on the other person.

If you extrapolate this to relationships, you could say, “The kind of person you attract depends on the kind of person you are.” Our relationships, and the people we attract into our lives, are just a reflection of who we are, at that point in our lives.

We often talk about men (or women) being “emotionally unavailable” or unwilling to commit to a better relationship. But the kind of people we attract into our lives often tend to be people who mirror our personality or the issues we are dealing with, in some way.

If, deep down, you have a fear of commitment or of “losing your freedom”, then you’re going to attract a mate with the same issues. If you have no self-love or low self-esteem, you’ll end up attracting people with the same problems.

The reason why we see patterns in our lives, why we get into abusive or unfulfilling relationships, is because we’ve not dealt with the issues that were responsible for creating our own beliefs and personalities.

The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. If you think positive thoughts, you’ll attract good things to you. If you respect people and do well by them, you’ll elicit the same response from them.

If you want to attract a person with all the qualities you want in a mate, then you must develop those qualities in yourself.

Want your mate to be more loving, giving and kind? Then become more loving, giving and kind.

Want your mate to be health-conscious? Start taking charge of your own health and fitness.

Want your mate to have a good sense of humour? Take the time and effort to develop your own sense of humour.

Want your mate to be financially secure? Get your own finances in order.

Want your mate to be emotionally available? Commit to share more of yourself first.

If you’ve been attracting the wrong kind of people into your life, take a good look at the person in the mirror. Get to know yourself better. You’ll find the answers are all inside you.

If you want a better relationship, you must become a better person. To attract the mate of your dreams, you must become the person you want to attract.

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Recommended Reading:

How To Become A Great Partner

Find The Man Of Your Dreams by Bob Grant

Attract The Man Of Your Dreams

Attract The Woman Of Your Dreams

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I moderate a women’s network on Ryze and decided to organise a series of workshops - The “Empowered Women Workshop” series, to help women solve issues in their lives, and empower themslves to become whole and complete people.

I believe that change comes from within and that only when we feel good about ourselves can we give our best to our families, children and careers.

The first Empowered Women Workshop is on Aura Reading and will be held on June 11, 2006, in Mumbai. My personal healer and friend, Leo Velloz, will be leading the workshop. An Aura Healing demo will be held and Leo will be available for consultations after that.

Leo helped me deal with a lot of anguish and pain that I went through after I lost my husband in June 2005, and I am happy to recommend his services to anyone who needs them.

Introduction to Aura Reading

Every living organism is surrounded by an electromagnetic energy field, called an Aura. This field vibrates at different frequencies and reflects your State of Mind, Body and Inner Being.

The human aura is considered to be the field of energy around our physical body which contains all our information past, present and future.

Your aura is a set of cascading colored outlines emanating from the surface of your body. It is a result of the emergence of chakra and it mirrors the supernatural energy field that surrounds and penetrates everything.

Each layer of aura is separate and distinct yet connected to all the remaining layers. By understanding the aura and its various colours one can unlock valuable information about ones self and gain guidance from it.

The meanings of the Aura

The aura of a person is considered to be a way to read one’s thoughts and to identify a liar when his words contradict the messages his aura says.

There is no way to change one’s aura. It is considered to be a universal spiritual signature. Only through conscious control can the aura be used to -

• identify a malfunction of the body and
• heal oneself.
• The emanating colors of the aura sometimes are tied to special or hidden meanings.

Until now, the seven colors consisting the aura that emanate from the surface of the object are mystically tied to many other things, like the planets, days of the week, and the musical notes.

Every color has a different Vibrational Frequency and is associated with various chakras or energy centers in your body. Your Aura Colors are determined by physical, mental, emotional and spiritual states of being.

The Colors of your Aura are neither good nor bad, superior or more spiritual than another. Every color has a polarity and unique representation relating to the individual.

If you live in Mumbai, register for the Aura Reading workshop here. The timings and venue of the workshop will be announced to registrants.

From time to time I’ll inform you of new programs and workshops that we organise. Do feel free to suggest themes for workshops that you might wish to attend.

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[From time to time, I’ll be publishing a few gems of wisdom from guest authors on this blog. If you’ve written an article feel free to submit it. There are no guarantees that it will be published, however. Our first guest author is Dr. Tim Ong, author of the ebook “From Fear To Love: A Spiritual Journey,” which I am currently reading. I enjoyed this article and completely endorse the sentiments here. I hope you do too]

As a doctor and a hospice volunteer, one of the most common fears that I encounter in my job is the fear of dying. In fact, this fear is so common that we have come to accept it as part and parcel of our life. In our fear-driven world where a lot of our actions are motivated by fear, the fear of dying seems like just another fear we need to live with.

However, I have had the good fortune to come across people who are able to die with courage, dignity and peace. During their final days and even up to the moment of death, they remained in peace and without a trace of fear. It almost looked as if they welcome death.

Regardless of the kind of illnesses they may be suffering from, each of these people have some common traits.

1. A Strong Faith in their Spirituality

People who die a peaceful death very often lead a very peaceful life as well. They have this inherent faith in their own spirituality and that death is not the be-all-and-end-all. These people need not necessarily be regular church-goers. In fact, just because you go to church regularly does not automatically confer upon you a peaceful life or death.

On the contrary, people who are spiritual lead a life of principles, based on self responsibility, non-judgmental and fair play. They are not hung on dogmas or beliefs. However, they are sure of their link to the divine, regardless of whether you called it God, Universal Mind, Allah or Brahma.

2. A habit of acceptance

They have this wonderful trait of acceptance. They don’t easily get upset when things do not turn out the way they had expected it. In fact, they don’t have unnecessary expectations. If things turned out the way they wanted, fine. If not, that’s O.K. too.

They don’t create a fuss or make a big deal of things. They accept whatever life has to offer them, knowing that things happened for good reasons, and that there are lessons they can gain from them. They see life as a spiritual growth.

3. A blessing to others

Because of their belief in spirituality, they see all lives as inter- connected and inter-dependent. Thus, they feel the desire to be of help to others. They are often involved in community services or volunteering organisations.

They are concerned about the environment and world peace. Yet, they recognise their limits and are not easily frustrated or despaired by things that are beyond their control. They strive to be a blessing to others.

They cultivate friendship with all beings and value relationships. These traits hold them in good stead when death approaches. They have few, if any, regrets and they welcome the liberation that comes with the separation of the spirit from the old and ailing physical body.

Perhaps we can learn from them.

Author: Dr. Tim Ong is a medical doctor and hospice volunteer. He is also the author of “From Fear to Love: A Spiritual Journey” - a book that explores our hidden fears and how we can overcome them. Dr. Ong shares his personal experience as well as relates stories and lessons from his patients. You can get a copy of his ebook here.

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If you’ve ever had any doubts about the benefits of a positive attitude, here’s some compelling scientific evidence showing why avoiding negative people is a good thing.

It comes via an very interesting post on the Creating Passionate Users blog, on why angry/negative people can be bad for your brain.

The post discusses the neuroscience of “mirror neurons” and “emotional contagion“, both new concepts to me and quite fascinating.

It discusses how these factors are responsible for the way negative people drain us of our energy and how the company we keep can infuence our thoughts. It also explains why happiness is good for your health and bliss benefits your brain.

I especially liked this quote on the effect of mirror neurons and emotional contagion on personal performance:

“If you want to accomplish something that demands determination and endurance, try to surround yourself with people possessing these qualities. And try to limit the time you spend with people given to pessimism and expressions of futility. Unfortunately, negative emotions exert a more powerful effect in social situations than positive ones, thanks to the phenomena of emotional contagion.”

This sounds harsh, and it is, but it’s his recommendation based on the facts as the neuroscientists interpret them today. This is not new age self-help–it’s simply the way brains work.

This advice is not new. Wise men have been telling us for thousands of years that the quality of your life is defined by the quality of your thoughts.

Having a positive attitude is not about being a Pollyanna, being in denial or faking happiness. It’s being able to interpret events in a more empowering way, being able to see problems as opportunities for growth, and choosing to be happy despite less than perfect circumstances.

I’ve seen a lot of people equate depression and negativity with being more creative, when in fact the opposite is true. Although some writers and poets have written some of their best works while in a depressed or intoxicated state, they are the exception, not the rule.

Some of our most inspired ideas come to us in positive states. Tony Robbins, Robin Sharma, Deepak Chopra, Brian Tracy and other success coaches have always championed the benefits of a positive attitude.

What you focus on grows. So if you’ve been indulging in negative self-talk, you need to replace that with positive thoughts. And if the the company you keep is getting you down, it’s probably time to make some new friends.

Resources:

How to Become an Unshakable Optimist

Learn the seven secrets of peak performance thinking in this fast-moving video presentation - professionally recorded before a live audience. Learn how to:

• Look for the good in every situation;
• Seek out the valuable lesson in every setback;
• Solve problems and overcome obstacles;
• Keep focused and moving forward;
• Trust your inner voice in every situation;
• Remain positive, optimistic and self-confident no matter what happens.

Self-Defeating Behaviors: Free Yourself from the Habits, Compulsions, Feelings, and Attitudes That Hold You Back

Addicted to Unhappiness: Free Yourself from Moods and Behaviors That Undermine Relationships, Work, and the Life You Want

When Am I Going to Be Happy? : How to Break the Emotional Bad Habits That Make You Miserable

Reinventing Your Life : The Breakthough Program to End Negative Behavior…and Feel Great Again

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In a previous post I talked about why I avoid negative people. I got a few responses to that post by email.

One lady thanked me for giving her the courage to get out of a situation with a person who was draining her energy, while another criticised my seeming lack of compassion.

Now, advising you to cut negative people out off your life might seem a bit harsh to some, but I believe its sometimes the only way.

You see, compassion is an excellent quality to have. I possess it in abundance. But I know from experience, that it can be a double-edged sword. It can either work for you or against you.

The closest analogy I can think of is trying to save someone from drowning in a strong river.

If you’re a strong swimmer, you could probably save them and survive. If you’re not a strong swimmer, however, you’d get swept away by the current and probably drown yourself.

My friend and healer, Leo Velloz, taught me that true compassion is the ability to empathise with people, not sympathise with them. If you’ve learned to make that distinction and can dissociate yourself from that person’s problems, good for you.

But, when a person is close to us, its easy to get caught up in their misery and allow them to drain you of your positive feelings. So if you’re not strong enough to fight the current of negativity, don’t even try.

If it’s someone in your life you can’t avoid completely (like a family member), minimise contact with that person or steer the conversation away from that person’s problems whenever you meet.

If you believe you’re strong enough to help that person, first find out if they truly want to be helped. Many victims will say they want to change, when deep down they really don’t want to.

Why? Well, as I mentioned in my article, there’s a payoff for staying the way they are.

For example, a victim may get sympathy and attention for being ill or depressed, and be unwilling to give up these “benefits”. For some, the payoff to being negative is getting to “be right” while for others it means avoiding the responsibility to make things better.

I mean, imagine if they suddenly had to be positive, stop being a victim and take responsibility for their lives. What a disaster THAT would be! They’d have to actually work to dig themselves out of the hole they’re in.

Ok, enough sarcasm.

But we’ve all known people like this, or even been victims at one point in our lives. I was guilty of this myself. Until I realised that I had a choice. And knowing that transformed my life completely.

When I lost my husband last year, no one would have blamed me if I had chosen to be depressed. He was the love of my life. I couldn’t imagine an existence without him. I had every reason to remain a victim, but I chose not to be one.

It was not bravery or courage. It was my choice. And one of the reasons I choose to remain happy was knowing that’s how he’d want me to be.

There are no helpless victims above 21 years of age. If you’re an adult who can take your own decisions, you CAN transform your life today.

No matter how bad your life looks, if you choose to keep blaming your fate or destiny or past, no matter how awful it was, you’re playing the victim.

And if you have a “victim” in your life, not tolerating their self-pity may be the kindest thing you can do for them.

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