Comments on: Stupid Mistake #2: Being Too Dependent On A Man http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/ An Appetite For Life Sat, 13 Mar 2010 10:57:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: liz http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-90956 liz Mon, 13 Apr 2009 15:03:02 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-90956 god i so agree about the financial independence. i live with a man twice my age that fully supports me and i put up with so much of his neurotic insecurities and BULLCRAP that i would NEVER put up with otherwise!! i hate it!!! i wish i could support myself but im not out of college yet, its really hard to find a job that will pay all of my bills myself, and my parents cannot support me. im afraid if i leave ill be on the streets. THIS SITUATION SUCKS, ITS NOT WORTH IT, DONT LET A MAN FULLY SUPPORT YOU!!! You have no say-so in anything for fear of being kicked out!!! god i so agree about the financial independence. i live with a man twice my age that fully supports me and i put up with so much of his neurotic insecurities and BULLCRAP that i would NEVER put up with otherwise!! i hate it!!! i wish i could support myself but im not out of college yet, its really hard to find a job that will pay all of my bills myself, and my parents cannot support me. im afraid if i leave ill be on the streets. THIS SITUATION SUCKS, ITS NOT WORTH IT, DONT LET A MAN FULLY SUPPORT YOU!!! You have no say-so in anything for fear of being kicked out!!!

]]> By: Priya Florence Shah http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-79050 Priya Florence Shah Mon, 29 Dec 2008 14:38:35 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-79050 Wow, that's some endorsement!! I am very happy if my writing has helped you in any way. I only shared what I've learned and I'm impressed that you made the effort to apply it to your life :) Wow, that’s some endorsement!! I am very happy if my writing has helped you in any way. I only shared what I’ve learned and I’m impressed that you made the effort to apply it to your life :)

]]> By: Grateful! http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-78981 Grateful! Mon, 29 Dec 2008 05:39:21 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-78981 You may have single-handedly saved my relationship! my boyfriend has been encouraging me to be more independent because he recognizes how my happiness has started to revolve around our relationship. we have been arguing a lot, and this has caused me to become terribly depressed. but i am already starting to feel more independent after exercising some of your tips, and our relationship is now better than ever! i cannot thank you enough! You may have single-handedly saved my relationship! my boyfriend has been encouraging me to be more independent because he recognizes how my happiness has started to revolve around our relationship. we have been arguing a lot, and this has caused me to become terribly depressed. but i am already starting to feel more independent after exercising some of your tips, and our relationship is now better than ever! i cannot thank you enough!

]]> By: Soul Kadee » Have Women Forgotten How To Be Feminine? http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-24714 Soul Kadee » Have Women Forgotten How To Be Feminine? Fri, 06 Jul 2007 01:57:09 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-24714 [...] Most of the time, he loved doing things for me. I realised that it made him feel needed and allowed him to express his masculinity. But there is such a thing as being too dependent on a man. For me, independence was something I had to LEARN. [...] […] Most of the time, he loved doing things for me. I realised that it made him feel needed and allowed him to express his masculinity. But there is such a thing as being too dependent on a man. For me, independence was something I had to LEARN. […]

]]> By: Soul Kadee » Stupid Mistake #10: Making Him Responsible For Your Happiness http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-21605 Soul Kadee » Stupid Mistake #10: Making Him Responsible For Your Happiness Sat, 19 May 2007 00:31:07 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-21605 [...] Stupid Mistake #2: Being Too Dependent On A Man [...] […] Stupid Mistake #2: Being Too Dependent On A Man […]

]]> By: Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Stupid Mistake #5: Tolerating Abuse http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-2624 Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Stupid Mistake #5: Tolerating Abuse Mon, 30 Oct 2006 14:52:10 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-2624 [...] Learn to understand and deal with your own codependent tendencies. Stop thinking that another person can make you feel happy or secure or fulfilled. You are the only one who can make you feel that way. Cultivate independence and you’ll attract healthy partners and relationships. [...] […] Learn to understand and deal with your own codependent tendencies. Stop thinking that another person can make you feel happy or secure or fulfilled. You are the only one who can make you feel that way. Cultivate independence and you’ll attract healthy partners and relationships. […]

]]> By: Priya Florence Shah http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-1202 Priya Florence Shah Mon, 04 Sep 2006 08:29:35 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-1202 Thanks, Linda. I couldn't find a link on your blog, but you write interesting stuff :-) Thanks, Linda. I couldn’t find a link on your blog, but you write interesting stuff :-)

]]> By: Linda Freedman (Therapy Doc) http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-1174 Linda Freedman (Therapy Doc) Wed, 30 Aug 2006 19:26:01 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-1174 Hi, I just stumbled on this fabulous blog and am linking you to mine as recommended. Thanks for the great work especially on Independence. Best, T.D. Hi, I just stumbled on this fabulous blog and am linking you to mine as recommended. Thanks for the great work especially on Independence. Best, T.D.

]]> By: Priya Florence Shah http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-981 Priya Florence Shah Mon, 07 Aug 2006 20:21:55 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-981 Actually I love men. I was deeply in love with one for 18 years. My best friends are men. And they're the kind who LOVE strong, independent women. Being independent is not about hating men or hating anyone for that matter. Its about respecting yourself and other people enough to take responsibility for your own needs. Its about being whole and complete, so that you have more of yourself to share with your partner. Its about striking a balance between independence and intimacy. A healthy relationship is one in which two people decide to be together not because they NEED each other to feel complete, but because they ENHANCE each other's lives. These concepts are alien to a lot of Indian men. Many of them are still mama's boys, intimidated by strong, independent women. I'm hoping you're not one of that species, but even if you are, you're entitled to your opinion. Actually I love men. I was deeply in love with one for 18 years. My best friends are men. And they’re the kind who LOVE strong, independent women.

Being independent is not about hating men or hating anyone for that matter. Its about respecting yourself and other people enough to take responsibility for your own needs.

Its about being whole and complete, so that you have more of yourself to share with your partner. Its about striking a balance between independence and intimacy.

A healthy relationship is one in which two people decide to be together not because they NEED each other to feel complete, but because they ENHANCE each other’s lives.

These concepts are alien to a lot of Indian men. Many of them are still mama’s boys, intimidated by strong, independent women.

I’m hoping you’re not one of that species, but even if you are, you’re entitled to your opinion.

]]> By: surya http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-977 surya Mon, 07 Aug 2006 17:33:47 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/02/stupid-mistake-2-being-too-dependent-on-a-man/#comment-977 hmmmmmmmmm.............. u reaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllyyyyy hate men!!!! dont u???? valid points ... though i dont agree with all..... hmmmmmmmmm………….. u reaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllyyyyy hate men!!!! dont u????

valid points … though i dont agree with all…..

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