Comments on: Stupid Mistake #2: Being Too Dependent On A Man

By: Soul Kadee » Have Women Forgotten How To Be Feminine?

Soul Kadee » Have Women Forgotten How To Be Feminine? — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 01:57:09 +0000

[…] Most of the time, he loved doing things for me. I realised that it made him feel needed andÂ allowed him to express his masculinity. But thereÂ is such a thing as being too dependent on a man. For me, independence was something I had to LEARN. […]

By: Soul Kadee » Stupid Mistake #10: Making Him Responsible For Your Happiness

Soul Kadee » Stupid Mistake #10: Making Him Responsible For Your Happiness — Sat, 19 May 2007 00:31:07 +0000

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By: Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Stupid Mistake #5: Tolerating Abuse

Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Stupid Mistake #5: Tolerating Abuse — Mon, 30 Oct 2006 14:52:10 +0000

[…] Learn to understand and deal with your own codependent tendencies. Stop thinking that another person can make you feel happy or secure or fulfilled. You are the only one who can make you feel that way. Cultivate independence and you’ll attract healthy partners and relationships. […]

By: Priya Florence Shah

Priya Florence Shah — Mon, 04 Sep 2006 08:29:35 +0000

Thanks, Linda. I couldn’t find a link on your blog, but you write interesting stuff

By: Linda Freedman (Therapy Doc)

Linda Freedman (Therapy Doc) — Wed, 30 Aug 2006 19:26:01 +0000

Hi, I just stumbled on this fabulous blog and am linking you to mine as recommended. Thanks for the great work especially on Independence. Best, T.D.

By: Priya Florence Shah

Priya Florence Shah — Mon, 07 Aug 2006 20:21:55 +0000

Actually I love men. I was deeply in love with one for 18 years. My best friends are men. And they’re the kind who LOVE strong, independent women.

Being independent is not about hating men or hating anyone for that matter. Its about respecting yourself and other people enough to take responsibility for your own needs.

Its about being whole and complete, so that you have more of yourself to share with your partner. Its about striking a balance between independence and intimacy.

A healthy relationship is one in which two people decide to be together not because they NEED each other to feel complete, but because they ENHANCE each other’s lives.

These concepts are alien to a lot of Indian men. Many of them are still mama’s boys, intimidated by strong, independent women.

I’m hoping you’re not one of that species, but even if you are, you’re entitled to your opinion.

By: surya

surya — Mon, 07 Aug 2006 17:33:47 +0000

hmmmmmmmmm………….. u reaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllyyyyy hate men!!!! dont u????

valid points … though i dont agree with all…..

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Sat, 05 Aug 2006 03:09:55 +0000

For #3 I’d have to say women in the home raising children should try and have a way to remain financially independent or at least keep the option there. It’s a tough place to be in when one is solely dependent on a partner who may not be overly forthcoming with support and does not see caring for the home and children as a job in itself. My amazon wishlist is growing rather quickly from your last few entries!

By: satyakam

satyakam — Wed, 02 Aug 2006 12:16:04 +0000

Hey a good write up…..