Comments on: Codependence And The Indian Male http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/ An Appetite For Life Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:19:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: Ruby http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-64507 Ruby Thu, 07 Aug 2008 05:15:25 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-64507 "If mother dear is not in the picture, the wife is expected to substitute, taking care of the kids, bringing in a pay packet, and serving up hot meals to hubby-dearest when he returns home. I know of marriages that have collapsed when the wife refused to comply with such insane demands." Welcome to the majority of Western marriages where living with extended family is not the norm. Everything falls to the woman to do. “If mother dear is not in the picture, the wife is expected to substitute, taking care of the kids, bringing in a pay packet, and serving up hot meals to hubby-dearest when he returns home. I know of marriages that have collapsed when the wife refused to comply with such insane demands.”

Welcome to the majority of Western marriages where living with extended family is not the norm. Everything falls to the woman to do.

]]> By: Soul Kadee » Stupid Mistake #9: Not Setting Healthy Boundaries http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-21465 Soul Kadee » Stupid Mistake #9: Not Setting Healthy Boundaries Mon, 14 May 2007 12:34:29 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-21465 [...] The younger generation of women seems to be rejecting this harmful stereotyping, but the “Mama’s boys” in our male population are still waiting for a woman who will take care of them and do for them what any healthy adult should be able to do for himself (see Codependence and the Indian Male). Little wonder, then, that so many Indian marriages are disintegrating under the pressure of dual-income homes. [...] […] The younger generation of women seems to be rejecting this harmful stereotyping, but the “Mama’s boys” in our male population are still waiting for a woman who will take care of them and do for them what any healthy adult should be able to do for himself (see Codependence and the Indian Male). Little wonder, then, that so many Indian marriages are disintegrating under the pressure of dual-income homes. […]

]]> By: Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » The New Indian Woman: In Love With Life http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-12278 Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » The New Indian Woman: In Love With Life Mon, 12 Feb 2007 17:15:16 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-12278 [...] Codependence And The Indian Male [...] […] Codependence And The Indian Male […]

]]> By: Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Addiction: The Hole In Your Soul http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-10897 Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Addiction: The Hole In Your Soul Sun, 28 Jan 2007 23:27:01 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-10897 [...] One of the reasons I stopped writing about codependence is because I’ve consciously chosen not to focus on it anymore. I know that “what you focus on grows”, and that the most important step to changing any behaviour is self-awareness and self-acceptance.  [...] […] One of the reasons I stopped writing about codependence is because I’ve consciously chosen not to focus on it anymore. I know that “what you focus on grows”, and that the most important step to changing any behaviour is self-awareness and self-acceptance.  […]

]]> By: Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Stupid Mistake #5: Tolerating Abuse http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-2179 Soul Kadee: An Appetite for Life » Stupid Mistake #5: Tolerating Abuse Thu, 26 Oct 2006 08:27:56 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/08/12/codependence-and-the-indian-male/#comment-2179 [...] A lot of Indian marriages are codependent relationships, with men, in general, being takers (on the narsicisstic side of the codependent spectrum). I blame this more on the fact that the boy child is still valued more (and hence treated far better) than the girl child in India, and the sexes have well-defined roles in traditional Indian marriages. [...] […] A lot of Indian marriages are codependent relationships, with men, in general, being takers (on the narsicisstic side of the codependent spectrum). I blame this more on the fact that the boy child is still valued more (and hence treated far better) than the girl child in India, and the sexes have well-defined roles in traditional Indian marriages. […]

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