Comments on: Stupid Mistake #3: Using Sex As A Weapon http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/ An Appetite For Life Sun, 14 Mar 2010 20:12:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.2 By: Thomas http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-92472 Thomas Fri, 01 May 2009 20:36:22 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-92472 Sex is about power, and in a relationship it seems both parties are constantly vying for total control. If your partner withholds sex, simple take the power from sex. If you dont want what they are withholding then they have no power over you. No the hard part is convincing them you are as equally disinterested in sex. If you are successful often they will try to reestablish sex as a way of reestablishing power over you. Do not fall for this trick, as soon you start having sex again, you are vulnerable to exploitation. Instead look for an alternative way of gaining power of them, which will either allow some balance of power or get enough power were withholding sex is no longer a viable option as a power medium. Sex is about power, and in a relationship it seems both parties are constantly vying for total control. If your partner withholds sex, simple take the power from sex. If you dont want what they are withholding then they have no power over you. No the hard part is convincing them you are as equally disinterested in sex. If you are successful often they will try to reestablish sex as a way of reestablishing power over you. Do not fall for this trick, as soon you start having sex again, you are vulnerable to exploitation. Instead look for an alternative way of gaining power of them, which will either allow some balance of power or get enough power were withholding sex is no longer a viable option as a power medium.

]]> By: Gaurav http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-76705 Gaurav Thu, 18 Dec 2008 14:00:19 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-76705 more then the sex i think indian women have been tasting sucess for relatively short period of tiem an will need more exposure to sucess before they come back to the dialogue table more then the sex i think indian women have been tasting sucess for relatively short period of tiem an will need more exposure to sucess before they come back to the dialogue table

]]> By: Gaurav http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-76704 Gaurav Thu, 18 Dec 2008 13:58:43 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-76704 i guess western women have already come full circle and indian women who started a few years will come full circle in around 20 years. indian men might as well groom themselves and go out find themselves american women because they have already spent last 30 yrs telling men to FO and are now ready for a dialogue based on reasonable and reciprocal behavior indian women are not so inclined and will take their own sweet time i guess western women have already come full circle and indian women who started a few years will come full circle in around 20 years. indian men might as well groom themselves and go out find themselves american women because they have already spent last 30 yrs telling men to FO and are now ready for a dialogue based on reasonable and reciprocal behavior
indian women are not so inclined and will take their own sweet time

]]> By: Vulcanmind http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54947 Vulcanmind Tue, 20 May 2008 05:21:47 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54947 Dude, don't worry. Women riding that particular hobbyhorse are about to hit evolutionary stagnation point. This species will eventually find that they have promoted themselves into complete redundancy. Even now, they're not wailing as much about the inequalities it all started off with, but about their empty beds. The future holds as little potential for feminists as it does for men who think they've found a sure-shot handle on manipulating women into bed. We're staring at the beginning of the Consolidation Phase - no more hobbyhorses, everybody walks or rots where they stand. You can fuck with Nature's laws only so long... Dude, don’t worry. Women riding that particular hobbyhorse are about to hit evolutionary stagnation point. This species will eventually find that they have promoted themselves into complete redundancy. Even now, they’re not wailing as much about the inequalities it all started off with, but about their empty beds. The future holds as little potential for feminists as it does for men who think they’ve found a sure-shot handle on manipulating women into bed.

We’re staring at the beginning of the Consolidation Phase - no more hobbyhorses, everybody walks or rots where they stand. You can fuck with Nature’s laws only so long…

]]> By: Jim http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54838 Jim Sat, 17 May 2008 08:14:41 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54838 How come we don't hear about men's needs in the relationship. Men are not just cave dwellers who only require sex to be happy, in fact it is as much a woman's job to emotionally support the man as vice versa. One of the problems with marriages today is that women seem to view themselves at the center of the universe, with the needs of their men being beneath consideration. It is important to realise that this one sided coin situation cannot continue for much longer without destroying what is left of the family system. It's time for the ladies to do away with the feminist movement and stop treating their men like domesticated animals. How come we don’t hear about men’s needs in the relationship. Men are not just cave dwellers who only require sex to be happy, in fact it is as much a woman’s job to emotionally support the man as vice versa.

One of the problems with marriages today is that women seem to view themselves at the center of the universe, with the needs of their men being beneath consideration. It is important to realise that this one sided coin situation cannot continue for much longer without destroying what is left of the family system. It’s time for the ladies to do away with the feminist movement and stop treating their men like domesticated animals.

]]> By: sex as a weapon http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54611 sex as a weapon Tue, 13 May 2008 21:02:53 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54611 [...] to do with power. ... My ex-boyfriend, 42 years old and used sex as a weapon against me. ...http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/Sex &151 a woman's weapon? - JAMAICAOBSERVER.COMSex - a woman's weapon? Feature ... We all know that [...] […] to do with power. … My ex-boyfriend, 42 years old and used sex as a weapon against me. …http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/Sex &151 a woman’s weapon? - JAMAICAOBSERVER.COMSex - a woman’s weapon? Feature … We all know that […]

]]> By: Vulcanmind http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54565 Vulcanmind Tue, 13 May 2008 03:36:45 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54565 This is a clear case of over-exposure and trying too hard. Are you a matador or a doormat, dude? Do you have a life? How will paying even more attention to a woman who has seen too much of you already help? You need a new woman (and she needs a new man) - and when you get her, you'd better change your clingy approach to something dignified, with lots of personal space and limits. This is a clear case of over-exposure and trying too hard. Are you a matador or a doormat, dude? Do you have a life? How will paying even more attention to a woman who has seen too much of you already help? You need a new woman (and she needs a new man) - and when you get her, you’d better change your clingy approach to something dignified, with lots of personal space and limits.

]]> By: Sean http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54499 Sean Mon, 12 May 2008 06:17:00 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-54499 I\'ve been in a relationship for the last year and a quarter with a beautiful woman 10 years older than myself (me being 29). Initially we had a wonderful exciting sex-life. Then in July/August last year she went away for a month to perform (I joined her for one really good week), then on her return, she stayed with me for a while, then we decided to move in together. A few weeks in, I went for some drinks after work when I should have been home and, caught up with all the excitement, rather selfishly stayed out too late. For the next two months, she used sex (or lack of) and anger as a very effective weapon, despite everything I did to apologize. Things eventually and slowly got back to normal until January when things started to deteriorate really quickly once again and for whatever reason, she just can\'t seem to be intimate with me. Now, sex isn\'t everything to me in life or a relationship, but it is something to be shared and enjoyed between partners who love each other. Whenever I\'ve tried to talk to open up and talk to her about it, she shuts down accusing me of only wanting one thing (duh!). If I try to do nice things for her, like buy flowers, take her on a date, or even just be with her it\'s now seemed to be viewed with complete suspicion. It\'s only this weekend, as I\'ve had a break away from her to look after my mother that I\'ve realized the sheer extent she has been using sex to manipulate me for whatever reason she has (her past etc.). I\'m at a cross-roads now and have despite loving her a great deal... well... help! I\’ve been in a relationship for the last year and a quarter with a beautiful woman 10 years older than myself (me being 29). Initially we had a wonderful exciting sex-life. Then in July/August last year she went away for a month to perform (I joined her for one really good week), then on her return, she stayed with me for a while, then we decided to move in together. A few weeks in, I went for some drinks after work when I should have been home and, caught up with all the excitement, rather selfishly stayed out too late. For the next two months, she used sex (or lack of) and anger as a very effective weapon, despite everything I did to apologize. Things eventually and slowly got back to normal until January when things started to deteriorate really quickly once again and for whatever reason, she just can\’t seem to be intimate with me. Now, sex isn\’t everything to me in life or a relationship, but it is something to be shared and enjoyed between partners who love each other. Whenever I\’ve tried to talk to open up and talk to her about it, she shuts down accusing me of only wanting one thing (duh!). If I try to do nice things for her, like buy flowers, take her on a date, or even just be with her it\’s now seemed to be viewed with complete suspicion. It\’s only this weekend, as I\’ve had a break away from her to look after my mother that I\’ve realized the sheer extent she has been using sex to manipulate me for whatever reason she has (her past etc.). I\’m at a cross-roads now and have despite loving her a great deal… well… help!

]]> By: Kay http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-51603 Kay Fri, 04 Apr 2008 03:26:38 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-51603 I had the opposite problem. I am 38 years old. My ex-boyfriend, 42 years old and used sex as a weapon against me. He knew that I really enjoyed sex. So he would deprive me of it, tease me and imply he would have sex with me and then at the last minute he wouldn\'t go through with it. He made me feel like crap. I realised that it was a form of control and dominance over me. He was a control freak and I am so happy to be out of that relationship. It was 12 months of confusion and the biggest emotional rollercoaster of a relationship that I ever experienced. I had never met a man who did that to woman before...it was a real eye opener! I had the opposite problem. I am 38 years old. My ex-boyfriend, 42 years old and used sex as a weapon against me. He knew that I really enjoyed sex. So he would deprive me of it, tease me and imply he would have sex with me and then at the last minute he wouldn\’t go through with it. He made me feel like crap. I realised that it was a form of control and dominance over me. He was a control freak and I am so happy to be out of that relationship. It was 12 months of confusion and the biggest emotional rollercoaster of a relationship that I ever experienced. I had never met a man who did that to woman before…it was a real eye opener!

]]> By: VR http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-48240 VR Sun, 24 Feb 2008 15:18:19 +0000 http://www.soulkadee.com/2006/09/04/stupid-mistake-3-using-sex-as-a-weapon/#comment-48240 Am not sure but I find wifes use sex as weapon to get back at their men Am not sure but I find wifes use sex as weapon to get back at their men

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