Guest Author: How to Attract a Good Man
August 9th, 2007, 4:56 am by Priya Florence Shah
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How many of us are looking for a man to make us feel good about ourselves? We think, As soon as I get a man, I’ll be happy; my life will be perfect.
This attitude reminds me of a quote: Half a woman will attract half a man. In other words, a woman who feels incomplete or inadequate will attract a man who is equally incomplete or inadequate.
Contrary to popular belief, relationships are not 50-50 propositions. We should enter into relationships as whole beings prepared to give (and receive) 100 percent.
So what does it mean to be whole? For starters, it doesn’t mean being perfect. Wholeness is a state of being. We reach this stage in life when we are no longer looking for someone or something to complete us.
We’re whole once we realize we already possess everything we want or need on the inside of us. We come into a conscious awareness that there is no lack in our lives. We recognize that we are complete and no one can add to or take way anything from our life. In our wholeness, we know that our life is what we make it.
Therefore, a whole and complete woman doesn’t depend on others to make her feel good about herself. She doesn’t seek validation from others. Her sense of purpose, well-being and identity doesn’t come from anything outside of herself, including a relationship.
She is content with her life. She truly loves herself and manifests joy and happiness she desires. She doesn’t expect others to make her feel that way.
When you’re whole, you never say, I’ll be happy when I have a man. Instead you say, Yes, I want a relationship. Even though I don’t have one right now, I will enjoy and love myself in this moment.
The people we attract to our lives are a reflection of who we are. So if you want someone who will love and honor you, you must first love and honor yourself. A joyful, loving, healthy relationship begins with you.
Rosslyn Champ is a poet, author and teacher. She is the founder of http://liveloveandprosper.com Her personal development site offers a variety of articles, booklets and other resources that provide a holistic, common sense approach to helping people achieve success in all areas of life.
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Liara Covert said,
September 14th, 2007, 10:16 am
This guest posting certainly offers ideas worth reflecting about. Personally, I think you can learn about yourself and grow on one level and seek a different kind of completeness in your personal life. Each of us beats our own drum and follows our own path. You may find the following two articles relate to this thread’s theme:
http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/journal/2007/3/29/the-biggest-risk-ever.html
http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/journal/2007/9/8/the-biggest-risk-ever-follow-up.html
Personal Development Reviews said,
November 11th, 2007, 9:36 am
We’re whole once we realize we already possess everything we want or need on the inside of us. We come into a conscious awareness that there is no lack in our lives. We recognize that we are complete and no one can add to or take way anything from our life. In our wholeness, we know that our life is what we make it. The Article is very nice
Claudia said,
February 14th, 2008, 6:12 pm
Hi!
Yes you are so right. A man can’t make you happy, or children or any thing.
I found that no matter what happens those old holes in the self always surface no matter what new man we meet. And to top it all until we have looked to ourselves we will keep attracting the same kind of man that possibly hurts us - this is a message that it’s time to heal and not keep blaming the men.
I hear it all too often - there are no good men out there - they are all married or gay. Talk about affirming your set of beliefs!
Thanks for the lovely post.
mary said,
June 6th, 2008, 7:13 am
I love this! When I first went away to college I wasn\’t even aware that I was so desperate. I used to cry and wanted a guy to come along so badly. That was almost 6 years ago now and articles like this make me so happy to read. Not to be ego-centric, but it reminds me of how far I have come and how much happier women can be when they truly stop basing their happiness or sense of wholeness on their relationships. We should not define ourselves to that extent through romantic relationships. I am a little lonely in life and would like to find a relationship eventually, but I love that I have activities and hobbies and feel that I am not in such a hurry or lonely enough to take whoever comes along and chooses me. I acknowledge that I haven\’t dated in such a long time and dating would be nice, but no one I am interested in has come along and I have so many other ways to make myself happy. Who you are in a relationship with is a reflection of yourself! I love that.
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