The first time I learned that I could choose to be happy was in a book by Richard Carlson called Shortcut through Therapy: Ten Principles of Growth-Oriented, Contented Living, that I read few years ago at a crucial point in my life. At that point, I thought, no way it can be THAT simple.

But, I’ve learned since then, that the simplest answer is usually the right one. And the reason we’re not happy is because we tend to complicate our lives far too much. Or that we put conditions on our state of being. As in, “I’ll only be happy if such-and-such happens.”

It took reading that book twice to drive the message home. That happiness really IS a choice. And that I can choose to be happy NO MATTER WHAT. That simple realisation changed my life. I hope it will help you too… :)

Happiness lies in the passions we pursue and in the pressures we decline. It is in knowing how to work and when to play. It is in the treasured objects we keep nearby and in the ordinary moments we elevate into small celebrations. It is in the note we write to a friend and the kindness we show a stranger. It is in the colors we love and the music that transports us. It may be as simple as sunlight on your face; as sudden as a shared smile; as sensuous as a single flower on your desk, candles on your nightstand, or cookies hot from the oven. Happiness is what you make it, where you make it.

- Alexandra Stoddard, Choosing Happiness: Keys to a Joyful Life

 

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5 Comments

  1. Inez said,

    October 20th, 2008, 11:39 pm

    An awesome book that will be a great read for you. How To Choose Happiness….Most of the Time. Chappale Linn Burton. It’s awesome, insightful and enlightening. You can get it on amazon.com

  2. Arun Chitnis said,

    October 21st, 2008, 4:21 am

    There is also much to be said for the Serenity Prayer, which is for free. It cuts through every excuse to be unhappy AND Amazon.com, as well :)

    God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
    The courage to change the things I can
    And the wisdom to know the difference

  3. Andreea said,

    November 16th, 2008, 12:42 pm

    Also I used to think that learning about happiness from books is rather weird. But once I started reading more and more and couldn’t get enough I realized that things can be pretty clear, once you start simplifying your life. From my point of view, it’s more about intuition: the first less complicated answer is the best one :)

    Andreea
    www.colouredfeelingsuniverse.com

  4. Priya Florence Shah said,

    November 16th, 2008, 2:54 pm

    Yup. It helps to simplify. Less clutter = Greater clarity :)

  5. Ash said,

    December 13th, 2008, 8:24 am

    you are a wonderous light.

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