Viva Carnavale!

February 21st, 2007, 5:20 pm by Priya Florence Shah
Filed under Events, Creativity, My Life, Experiences, India, Attitude, Thoughts

Just uploaded the photos from my weekend in Goa, where I attended a wedding, saw my new baby neice and attended the Carnival celebrations in Panjim.

Thanks to politicking, the Carnival was a rather tepid affair, with many floats looking like they’d been thrown together at the last minute (which they were). Hopefully next year will be different. Check out some of the photos below.

Goa Carnival

Carnival float in Panjim

Carnivale float in Panjim

Carnival float in Panjim

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Naaree.com Call it serendipity, but on the eve of launching Naaree.com - my portal and magazine for the new Indian woman - I came across the latest issue of The Week magazine, which profiles the New Indian Woman, as one who lives life on her own terms, is answerable to no one for her choices and is learning to take care of her own needs. Sounds a lot like moi, doesn’t it? ;-)

Some quotes from the article here:

Meet the new age working woman-fiercely independent, ambitious, focused and fun-loving. Financial independence and the need to create an identity of her own drive them to successful careers.

“If you are educated and independent, then you are capable of taking care of yourself.”

The present generation’s ‘me first’ attitude is supported by their mothers who still preach, not about boys and pre-marital sex, but about speaking up against unfair treatment. No more of the ‘we put up with it, so should you’ philosophy; now it is ‘we could not do it but you should’. “Parents are the first ones to tell their daughters to react and not take anything lying down.

“It’s not being self-centred, it is about self-happiness. If I am not satisfied, how do I keep people around me happy?”

That’s the new age woman for you. No more being apologetic about being ambitious, no more being guilty about placing herself first, no more being coy about bad marriages and relationships. The horizon has been captured, now it is time to look for greener pastures.

Today, a 27-year-old banker will not budge an inch on her personal commitments for professional reasons and vice versa while a 26-year-old would rather stay single than marry a man she is not sure of, so what if she lived with him for two years?

If, today, the glass ceiling has been shattered and women are accepted as equals in the working world, it has taken a lot of persistence and effort.

Today’s women have found a way to maintain the personal-professional balance: they delay marriage or just drop the idea completely.

The truth also is that professional success frees the woman from financial dependence, giving her a greater bargaining power in the relationship.

The article also talks about how the Indian male is yet to catch up with his partner’s liberated attitude, and how he still resists the idea of a wife who earns more than him and chooses her career over staying home with the kids.

The man, on his part, is still struggling to come to terms with this new woman who is no longer seeking his approval and when confronted with the classic ‘it’s my way or the highway’ chooses the highway.

It features interviews by ad-man, Prahlad Kakkar, who exhorts Indian men to grow up and break away from their mother’s apron strings. Whether they take his advice remains to be seen.

Great coverage by The Week! Do pick up a copy at your news stand. I’ve written a lot on these issues in the past. You can read some of my related posts here.

Naaree.com Celebrates The New Indian Woman

Stupid Mistakes Women Make

Codependence And The Indian Male

Being Single: The Joys Of Solitude

Are You Marriage Material?

Quirkyalone In Mumbai: Single And Loving It

What I Find Sexy In A Man

Believe In Yourself And Become a Winner

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We are spiritual beings having a human experience. But what does spirituality mean to you? Only you can answer that.

Sunset at Marine DriveTo me, being spiritual is not about believing in some esoteric philosophy that 90% of the world cannot access or understand.

Spirituality does not come from a holy book. It is not a complex set of ideas only meant for monks and priests. It’s not about following rituals or having beliefs that exclude other cultures or communities.

The kind of spirituality I believe in is the kind I practice in everyday life. The thoughts I think, the words I speak, the actions I choose, the way I conduct myself when alone or with others, the work I do, the choices I make - the little things I do every day of my life.

To me, all these things are an expression of spirituality:

  • Eating food
  • Bathing
  • Nurturing myself
  • Making love
  • Expressing gratitude for the abundance in my life
  • Expressing love to myself and others
  • Setting goals or intentions for my life
  • Sharing belly-laughs with a special friend
  • Giving a massage
  • Watching a sunset
  • Being a mother
  • Reading a book
  • Watching a movie
  • Listening to music
  • Singing
  • Dancing
  • Exercising
  • Meditating
  • Taking a walk
  • Planting a tree
  • Writing this blog

The information at Heal Past Lives has a lot of concepts that resonate with my own ideas of spirituality. This article, titled Hallmarks of the Spiritually Advanced Being, has a list of 12 simple standards to measure your level of spiritual advancement.

  • #1: LOVE - The Spiritually Advanced are models of unconditional LOVE
  • #2: JOY - The Spiritually Advanced find JOY in every moment
  • #3: TRUTH - The Spiritually Advanced are seekers after TRUTH
  • #4: COURAGE - The Spiritually Advanced draw strength from COURAGE
  • #5: TRUST - The Spiritually Advanced TRUST unconditionally
  • #6: PURPOSE - The Spiritually Advanced are living their PURPOSE in life
  • #7: ABUNDANCE - The Spiritually Advanced manifest ABUNDANCE
  • #8: CLARITY - The Spiritually Advanced are CLEAR channels for God
  • #9: SIMPLICITY - The Spiritually Advanced unfold in SIMPLICITY
  • #10: GENTLENESS - The Spiritually Advanced act with GENTLENESS
  • #11: GRATITUDE - The Spiritually Advanced are always GRATEFUL
  • #12: BALANCE - The Spiritually Advanced maintain BALANCE in living

So how many of these qualities do YOU possess?

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“That which you gain from each difficult life, you gain for all eternity.”

– from Destiny of Souls by Michael Newton, PH.D.

One of my favourite television programs is “Inside The Actor’s Studio,” where I get a glimpse of my favourite movie stars, up close and personal.

While I found my hottie, , a total disappointment (stiff and self-conscious), I loved the interviews of (the complete diva!), (sweet, sensitive and empathic), (a class act!) and (Class Act II).

Frida KahloBut the one I loved the most was that of - who also happens to be my favourite actor, one of the few women I wouldn’t mind changing my sexual orientation for, and a beautiful soul.

Her labour of love, Frida, also happens to be one of my favourite movies of all time. Frida is the biography of artist Frida Kahlo, who channeled the pain of a crippling injury and her tempestuous marriage into her work.

One statement that Salma made, in her interview with the young actors and directors, stays with me till this day, because it resonates with what I’ve believed all my life (even if I haven’t always felt that positive).

“Embrace Adversity,” she said, “It’s the best teacher.”

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. So if life throws you a curveball (or a googly, as we say in India), know that it’s just one of the many lessons that the universe wants you to learn from. And if you learn your lessons well, you’ll come out on top every time.

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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I want to reproduce a beautiful article on spirituality by Jane Roder today.

Spirituality - The Inward Journey Of The Self

  • It’s self-love and feeding your inner flame, your deepest desires.
  • It’s making conscious choices that are in direct alignment with your deepest desires.
  • It’s being open to the joy that life has to offer.
  • It’s honouring yourself, setting personal boundaries, and being prepared to say no sometimes.
  • It’s not worrying about what other people think of you because you feel secure within yourself.
  • It’s becoming a more authentic person and taking off your personality mask.
  • It involves taking responsibility for developing an individual code of morals & values and living by these values.
  • It’s taking responsibility for the results you are getting and creating in your life
  • It’s personal honesty at any cost and getting real
  • It’s seeing adverse and painful situations as an opportunity for personal growth.
  • It’s coming to terms with death and seeing it as natural as birth.
  • It’s knowing that life is always changing that we cannot control anything €œ that nothing is guaranteed or certain.
  • It’s knowing what drives you.
  • It’s recognizing what pain from the past is still affecting your life today and what needs to be healed within you.
  • It’s knowing who you truly love, and what you are truly passionate about.
  • It’s knowing who and what you would die for.
  • It’s knowing what you would give up the Porsche and the big house for.
  • It’s about truly feeling the universal energy at work and feeling the oneness and connection to all people and all living things.
  • It’s an appreciation of the healing properties of nature.
  • It is about love for all people, honesty, integrity, trust, creativity, compassion, commitment, fun, forgiveness, joy, self-love, and all the higher ideals in life that give us a sense of meaning and purpose.
  • It’s becoming more enlightened on a heart and soul level.
  • It’s getting out of the head space (of musts, shoulds and have to’s).
  • It’s being able to sit still with yourself in complete silence for a period of time to find the wise answers within.
  • It’s getting the damaged adult part of yourself out of the way, and returning to the unconditional love and joy of the child state, so you can make a difference to your own life and other people’s lives.
  • It’s about the protection and development of the soul, and the lessons we need to learn in this lifetime for us to evolve to a higher level of consciousness - to become more compassionate, loving and forgiving (to get in touch with our spiritual self).
  • It is being aware that all the great spiritual masters taught the same messages€œ these being love of self and others, honesty, forgiveness, joy, lack of judgment, sharing, faith, gratitude etc.
  • It’s is being constantly conscious that our words and actions affect every individual we interact with, in a positive or negative way €œ that these individuals then go out and affect others who also affect others.

Knowing this truth we realize we have an individual responsibility to the universe. With this awareness we realize we have the capacity to change the world when we continually empower others in our day to day lives.

Jesus said … The kingdom of god lies within

Buddha said … The greatest battle in life is the one with ourselves

We need to experience quiet and clear space in the mind to tap into our spiritual nature. Meditation, self-help books, courses, and being alone with nature are very powerful for this purpose.

We do not necessarily need to belong to a church or a religious group to access the power of spirituality. The power is within us.

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As a creative person living in the distraction and chaos of the city, I sometimes find it very difficult to create the environment I need to boost my creativity and bring out the best in me.

While talking with my Sensei a couple of days ago, I told him about a time when I was so unhappy with my life, that I wanted to escape to the mountains and become a recluse.

There’s no effort in that, he said. It’s easy to achieve peace and serenity in a calm and beautiful environment like the mountains. Your goal should be to become an oasis of calm in the midst of chaos. So true!

One method that helps me calm my mind, is a technique used by many teachers of visualisation and meditation - creating an inner sanctuary in your mind.

While listening to the audio of Shakti Gawain’s Creative Visualization Meditations, I remembered a vignette from my childhood, that I loved, and that has always helped me create an inner sanctuary of peace and calm.

When we were kids, Doordarshan used to broadcast this short film that showed two little kids, a girl and a boy running through a grassy meadow towards a lake ringed by tall trees.

I still rememer the way the rays of sunlight shone through the trees and sparkled on the lake like diamonds.

The kids would laugh, hold hands, throw pebbles into the water and watch the ripples on the lake. It was all in the name of promoting national integration (the boy’s name was Rahim, the girl’s name, I don’t remember), but the visual was beautiful, calming and joyful.

It’s the first image that comes to mind when I create my inner sanctuary during meditation. Using that visual has helped me create a space inside me that nurtures my creativity and enthusiasm for expressing it.

If someone knows where I can my hands on a copy of that film, do let me know. Its something I’d cherish, as a part of my life I never want to let go.

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The Little Book Of Inner Space

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The only real valuable thing is intuition.
Albert Einstein

Intuition, the sixth sense (also known as gut feeling, hunches, dreamtongue, wahi), has always been the subject of much scepticism.

Intuition is defined as

Understanding without apparent effort, quick and ready insight seemingly independent of previous experiences or empirical knowledge.

or

A spontaneous impulse to take an immediate, unplanned action, which in retrospect, proves to be the most beneficial action to take in order to positively influence an unknown future event or situation.

“To the rationally minded, the mental processes of the intuitive appear to work backwards. His conclusions are reached before his premises,” wrote Frances Wickes in The Inner World of Childhood.

In the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personality indicator, Sensing and Intuition are the perceiving functions. They indicate how a person prefers to receive and process data.

The Sensing type prefers to receive data primarily from the five senses, and the Intuitive type prefers to receive data from the subconscious, or seeing relationships via insights or associations. Sensors see the trees, while Intuitives see the forest.

While Sensors tend to think in a linear fashion, one thought following the next, Intuitives frequently engage in intuitive leaps in thinking. Sensors tend to live in the moment, while Intuitives live in the past or future.

Sensors are also more likely to trust their experience, while Intuitives are able to see possibilities and alternatives that aren’t immediately apparent.

Note: No personality type is better or worse - they’re just a way of assessing different temperaments and helping us understand ourselves better.

For most of my life, I was ignorant of my intuitive nature. I didn’t understand, believe or trust my feelings and hunches. Influenced by the belief that intellect was superior to emotion, I thought intuition was an inferior way to see the world.

I believed that rational thinking and scientific reasoning were a better way to process data than feelings, and gravitated towards a career in science, which only served to strengthen my scepticism.

Embarrassed by my attraction to the paranormal, I sought to explain even that through logic and scientific reasoning. After all, Carl Sagan was my hero, and he spent most of his life trying to disprove paranormal phenomena!

I still love Sagan’s books, but realised that his arguments were flawed. Attempts to measure psychic phenomena using scientific criteria don’t work, because scientific observation is limited to the five senses. As Jad at the Book of Storms says, that would be like the Sun chasing the Moon.

Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.
Albert Einstein

Despite my denial of intuition, I did end up acting from gut feeling most of my life. If something didn’t feel right, I just wouldn’t do it. I have to thank my impulsive Aries traits for that.

It took me a (long) while to start trusting my intuition. But scoring as an INFJ in the MBTI personality typing, empowered me to look at the world in a whole new light. I was finally free of the compulsion to deny who I was.

As I continue to learn more about myself and my gifts, I appreciate the role that intuition has played in my life. It gave me the ability to express myself in writing, and to connect with people almost instantly.

Intuitive information can come through feelings, images, body sensations (gut feelings) or thoughts. Because of my sensitivity to energy, I get my information primarily through feelings and body sensations (clairsentience).

When I know something is wrong, or sense insincerity or incongruency in a person, I get a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, or a tightness in my chest, a dip in my energy levels and a general low feeling.

Sometimes I feel a chill down my spine or my hair standing up on end. With some people I’ve felt an instant “Ewww”, a repulsion that I’m unable to explain. When the feeling is strong, I feel physically ill, sick to my stomach.

When I trust my intuition, I am rarely wrong. It’s when I second-guess my hunches and rationalise my gut feelings about people and situations, that I end up learning hard lessons.

According to Intuition magazine online, “intuition is increasingly recognized as a natural mental faculty, a key element in the creative process, a means of discovery, problem solving, and decision making. Once considered the province of a gifted few, it is now recognized as an innate capacity available to everyone — not a rare, accidental talent, but a natural skill anyone can cultivate.”

Intuition is now an EQ competency; that is, it’s considered something necessary to successful living, and something to be respected and valued, writes Susan Dunn.

To develop your intuition, “Get centered. Quiet your thinking mind. Slow down and focus on one thing at a time. Listen. Practice,” she advises.

Sounds an awful lot like mindfulness practice or meditation to me. I can vouch for meditation, because it was responsible for helping me tap into my intuitive abilities.

Do share. I’d love to hear your experiences with discovering your intuitive and psychic abilities.

Resources to help develop intuition

A selection of articles on Intuition

Understanding Your Psychic Ability - 8 powerful ways to increase your awareness, and consequently your happiness with both your self and the world around you.

Developing Our Psychic Ability - Additional Benefits of Listening to Your Sixth Sense Podcast

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If you’re a sci-fi junkie like me, you’re probably familiar with Star Trek and the Holodeck (or Holographic Environment Simulator) concept.

The Holodeck is a technology that can recreate any chosen environment within the confines of the Starship Enterprise. Designed as a place where the crew can relax and unwind during a long voyage, the holodeck took virtual reality to a new level, creating scenarios that appear so real, they are difficult to distinguish from reality.

In the Holodeck you can actually create your own reality - one that is programmed to meet your desires.

You can live the life of your dreams, play a super hero, find the perfect mate and live in a virtual world of your own creation.

Gimme a date with Jean LucWow! If I had access to something like that, I’d create an army of minions to do my bidding. Or date the gorgeous Jean Luc Picard. :D

Now you’re probably wondering what this has to do with manifestation. Well, the truth is we all manifest our own reality, whether we like to admit it or not.

Whether our lives are great or lousy, they’re the product of our own creation. The thoughts we think create the life we live.

To create the life of your dreams you must overcome your limitations and learn how to manifest your desires by FOCUSING on what you want.

Now, what if I told you that you could use the concept of Holographic Creation to easily manifest your desires, even if you lack the ability to clearly visualize what you want.

That you could have your own version of Star Trek’s Holodeck to simulate a reality of your own creation. And that you don’t even need to be beamed up to the Starship Enterprise to do that.

You’d probably think I’d completely lost it, right? Well, I need you to keep an open mind about this, because Christopher Westra has released some information that claims to help you do exactly that.

Through his counseling and consulting work, Christopher has helped hundreds of people clarify what they really want. He’s developed techniques that will help you identify what you really want, and create it using a process he calls “HoloCreation.”

It’s very similar to what Maxwell Maltz, father of Psycho-Cybernetics, calls the “Theatre of the Mind.”

Christopher has discovered techniques that go beyond mere visualisation and outlined his techniques in his book called “I Create Reality.” So beam yourself up and check out his beautiful video on how we create our reality.

It probably won’t get me a date with Jean Luc, but I think you’ll find the information in his book fascinating, whether you’re a Trekkie or not. I hope it helps you “Make it so!“.

Also worth checking out is Christopher’s video on creating more joy and emotional transformation in your life. Inspiring stuff! Do forward them to your friends.

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In my quest to find the perfect mate, I often ended up dating or attracting people who were completely wrong for me. It was only when I realised a simple truth that my entire concept of relationships changed.

Practitioners of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) have a rule that states: The meaning of your communication is the response that you get. That means the response you elicit from a person depends entirely on how you communicate your ideas to them.

If you communicate in a way that gets you the response you desired, you were successful. If not, you need to learn what was missing in your communication and how to incorporate that the next time you try.

Notice how this rule places the onus of getting a response on YOU, not on the other person.

If you extrapolate this to relationships, you could say, “The kind of person you attract depends on the kind of person you are.” Our relationships, and the people we attract into our lives, are just a reflection of who we are, at that point in our lives.

We often talk about men (or women) being “emotionally unavailable” or unwilling to commit to a better relationship. But the kind of people we attract into our lives often tend to be people who mirror our personality or the issues we are dealing with, in some way.

If, deep down, you have a fear of commitment or of “losing your freedom”, then you’re going to attract a mate with the same issues. If you have no self-love or low self-esteem, you’ll end up attracting people with the same problems.

The reason why we see patterns in our lives, why we get into abusive or unfulfilling relationships, is because we’ve not dealt with the issues that were responsible for creating our own beliefs and personalities.

The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. If you think positive thoughts, you’ll attract good things to you. If you respect people and do well by them, you’ll elicit the same response from them.

If you want to attract a person with all the qualities you want in a mate, then you must develop those qualities in yourself.

Want your mate to be more loving, giving and kind? Then become more loving, giving and kind.

Want your mate to be health-conscious? Start taking charge of your own health and fitness.

Want your mate to have a good sense of humour? Take the time and effort to develop your own sense of humour.

Want your mate to be financially secure? Get your own finances in order.

Want your mate to be emotionally available? Commit to share more of yourself first.

If you’ve been attracting the wrong kind of people into your life, take a good look at the person in the mirror. Get to know yourself better. You’ll find the answers are all inside you.

If you want a better relationship, you must become a better person. To attract the mate of your dreams, you must become the person you want to attract.

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Recommended Reading:

How To Become A Great Partner

Find The Man Of Your Dreams by Bob Grant

Attract The Man Of Your Dreams

Attract The Woman Of Your Dreams

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